Baby Lessons
One thing about pregnancy is that the world becomes more social. Living in a place like Toronto, where strangers avoid looking each other in the eye or striking up a conversation, this was a welcome change in my life when I got pregnant. Sure, sometimes you get tired of everyone asking you the same questions but I liked being noticed and having strangers (mostly older women) sharing my excitement when they noticed I was pregnant. I felt more connected with those around me through my changed state.
I also learned the power of sharing my experiences with other pregnant women. Being pregnant is such a unique experience that you cannot fully describe it, hard as you may try, to those that haven’t gone through it. When you talk to other pregnant women and share the little idiosyncrasies of being pregnant you know they are getting exactly what you’re saying. So you bond naturally.
Then comes the baby, and everyone loves babies! Any time you’re out walking around people are peeking into your stroller, trying to get a glimpse of the cute little thing passing by. People inevitably have a moment of tenderness looking into a baby’s eyes or seeing a baby sleep peacefully. Once again, you feel like the world is noticing you and they know your state of mind – you are a mother.
One of the strangest experiences for me after having my baby was going out alone. This wasn’t just because I missed having her glued to me and hearing her little noises but because, all of a sudden, I was anonymous to the world. I was just one more person, no bump, no bundle, no stroller. No one took notice.
One day when I ran out to the pharmacy on my own only days after having my baby someone asked me how many months pregnant I was. I was surprised that instead of taking offense to her comment I felt happy that she had noticed me.
My experience has taught me that people welcome a reason not to remain anonymous. I may just strike up the odd conversation with strangers. I have a suspicion that they may not think I’m crazy but rather they may just smile back. One of the many lessons that my baby will have taught me, I’m sure!
Veronica
