Every holiday season I struggle with how to deal with the idea of giving and receiving presents and what I should teach my kids about this issue. I want to instill in my two little girls a sense of giving and responsibility towards those who have less than they do, but I feel that at 2 and 5 my daughters might be too young to understand a holiday season without ANY presents for themselves. Especially when every time we open the newspaper there is a ‘gift-giving’ guide full of toys inside. I don’t want them to think that Santa Claus has forgotten about them (this Christmas they will receive from ‘Santa’ some books, colouring items and a surprise toy), but I don’t think there is anything wrong in talking about the fact that giving and receiving presents is not important and that the holidays are all about sharing time with family.
My daughters will also help me choose some presents for an inner-city school in Toronto that their school has chosen to help this holiday season. I think this is a great cause and by bringing my children along to pick the items (school supplies, books), I think we will be dealing with the issue of gift-giving in a very positive light.
In our extended family, we have adopted the great tradition of exchanging gifts with just one of the adults in the group and to just enjoy each other’s company during a great holiday meal. Everyone is extremely happy with this idea as it not only lets everyone enjoy the holidays in a less frivolous way, but we have taken a big stress out of the holiday season (financially and physically). A small gift for the kids in the family are OK, especially things along the lines of books and crafts.
I recently read a great article about gift-giving ideas for kids. If you feel you have to give your kids anything this holiday season, try some of these ideas in a list of ‘gifts that keep on giving’ from yoyomama.ca. These ideas include magazine subscriptions (my little girls love ‘chirp‘), museum memberships, and concert series.
I hope that through the years my children will learn to be compassionate towards those in need. My husband and I try to instill this idea on our little girls every step of the way, without taking life too seriously and depriving them of all the fun a normal childhood should have.
Maria
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